Type 6. The Loyal Skeptic
Always on alert,
Sixes are focused on safety and security. They are good at forecasting problems. They are the best troubleshooters. In a critical situation, they find at least one solution, but usually more than one. They want to be prepared in case something bad or scary happens.
They are great team players. Practical, wise, and thoughtful. They like to question everything. It’s their way to get more information that allows them to be prepared and reduce unforeseen matters. The distant future and distant past interest them very little. Sixes do not like to be in the center of attention, on the stage. They can do it only when protecting someone or fighting the right cause.
They perceive the world as dangerous and unpredictable. Sixes are usually not aware of their fear. They think of themselves as well prepared, adaptive, and flexible. Their reaction to danger is one of the 3 possible: fight, flight, or friends or in other words battle, escape or find support in friends or authority. Because of such a wide spectrum of reactions, they differ a lot from each other and their behaviors can also differ from situation to situation.
In a relationship, their partner can count on loyalty. For people who love, they take care and do it skillfully. Their friendship is very warm and deep. They prefer to trust people as trusting helps them to tackle their fear. But they’re unconsciously observing the other always looking for re-confirmations that they did the right choice trusting this person. this constant check-up also includes unconscious provocations: “Prove to me that I can trust you.”
They analyze the situation well, from different points of view. That is why they develop analytical and critical thinking skills. It is also true, they can get stuck in endless analysis, doubts, and mental dialogues.
Sixes are very sensitive and perceptive. They have a special talent for seeing behind the words and actions of the others, understanding their intentions. That’s why they also sense discontent in the interaction and they prefer to be the first to denote tension and complexity: “Let’s first discuss, and then go on.” In some cases, though, they would not dare to confront the person, rather talking about this tension in the relationship with a confidant.
Power, autocracy, hierarchy, the dynamics of the “we are against them” relationship are significant issues for Sixes, although they may be unconscious about it. For them, authority can be either a person or an ideology or a set of laws and rules. Periodically Sixes doubt the authority and may rebel against it. This is the typical for Sixes eternal pendulum in any type of relationship. Caused by their childhood experience when they loved but couldn’t rely on their parents.
They are automatically scanning and getting focused on the problem as their natural reaction to new ideas is doubts. While they are great at analytical and critical thinking, they can get stuck in doubts, endless questioning, and over-analysis and skepticism.
They have a great sense of humor, sometimes sarcastic as they use it to cope with fear.