Type 2. The Helper
Twos are most focused on relationships and love (in all its manifestations). At their best, Twos are naturally attentive to others. They like to take care of others, help them, support them. Two intuitively understand their counterparts needs.
Usually Twos are extroverted, have a wide circle of acquaintances, and they quickly turn their acquaintance into friends. They zealously guard their relationship and want to be especially important to their friends and close one. One of my type 2 clients constantly and skillfully during every session tried to turn our relationship from client – coach to friend – friend. Every time I pointed it out to him, he seemed surprised and apologetic as he was unconsciously doing the same with everyone.
Twos want to be influential and invisible at the same time. They are kind, attentive, supportive colleagues and teammates.
Type 2 are generous, giving and have hard time taking. They also have difficulty expressing their own needs. Twos have this strong desire to care about others. It could have been quite a healthy altruistic motive, if Twos did it without suppressing their own needs. They sincerely believe that they are fine and that others are more in need of their help. As a result, they often feel resentment by not getting in response for their care enough of gratitude and attention, not noticing that it is them who break the balance of give-&-take in the relationship, unable to either ask or take. As a result they often indulge into hedonistic habits to somehow even out this balance for themselves.
Twos are sensitive and emotional and can easily cry. They are “teddy bears” of Enneagram as they like to hug, cuddle.
For Twos it is important to be accepted, liked, loved. They have an exaggerated need to be needed, to be valuable. They love when others express their gratitude for their act of care or love. In fact, they confuse love and gratitude.