Type 3. The Achiever

overview

Goal-oriented,

Threes put all their energy into work trying to achieve their goals as quickly and efficiently as possible. Success in achieving them is the most important drive for them. They can neglect their basic needs for a while  in order to achieve those goals. Free time brings anxiety. They are great at multitasking. They value competence, effectiveness in their work and that of the others. Therefore, they often prefer to work independently, as they get annoyed that others slow them down on their way to desired results.

They can be great leaders because they can inspire other people with their encouraging example of efficient and effective work.

Threes get energy from their success. They do not limit their success and efficiency only to the work. Their whole life may be subject to their efficiency. And this can cause the problem of constant tension and stress for themselves and their close ones. They seem to the others as achievers, careerists (in both good and bad senses). They focus on tasks being blind to their true Self, with whom they are hardly familiar .

Threes are charismatic. Many Threes are attractive. They have a sensitive radar for what others like and how they should look and act in order to attract attention and reverence. They have a sixth sense for the group dynamics and a special talent to look attractive, successful, self-confident in order to get admiration from others. This desire to be admired by others prevents them from being authentic, and as a result, does not allow them to be really close and intimate with others.

Threes are very competitive. They compete with themselves, others, striving to be the best. Some say that they do not like to compete, but when they get into certain competitive situations, they simply do not see any other option other than to compete and most importantly win. This may turn into a certain insensitivity to others.

Very sociable, they communicate well with all types and avoid conflicts, building friendly relations with everyone, but if someone stands on the way to their goals, they can get into conflict. They can also ignore rules and regulations if those stay on the way to the desired goals.

At their best

They are efficient, competent, goal-oriented, ambitious, confident, charismatic, energetic, fast, optimistic, responsible, adaptive, practical

When they are unhealthy

They are deceptive, arrogant, vain, competitive, superficial, workaholic, exploitative

examples

Famous People:

Bill Clinton, Sting, Tom Cruise, Sharon Stone, Tony Robbins, Denzel Washington, Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Oprah.

“Success is a great deodorant”

– Elizabeth Taylor

From my coaching experience:

A young and energetic woman is very successful in her business. She created it from a scratch. She has problems in her family as her parents and her husband don’t get along well. She’s stretched between the two sides, trying to manage the relationships. Her manipulative husband makes it all worse, as a genius manipulator he knows exactly how to pull the string. When she came to me her request had nothing to do with her as her feelings were something unimportant to her. Especially negative feelings. She wanted to achieve a set goal: to reconcile her parents and her husband. When she realized that it’s not about the project but about getting into contact with her true feelings and clearly stating them to all parties she… quit. Because, like many of type 3, she decided to find a shortcut to achieving her goal. Learning how to identify her emotions, give them importance, how to state them to others, especially to her manipulative husband was a big challenge.

  • Core belief:

To be loved, I must succeed.

I am what I do: my achievements, my success.

I mustn’t fail.

  • Core fear:

I’m afraid I’m not worthy of love and respect for who I am.

I’m afraid my feelings are more like obstacles on the way to being admired by others.

  • Basic desire:

To be loved, and accepted.

  • Basic strategy:

Strive for success, attractiveness and admiration. 

Growth path

The key steps of growth:

(based on my coaching experience of type 3 clients)

  • Recognize your desire to act trying to get wanted reaction from the others, ignoring your emotions.

  • Learn to identify your feelings and emotions and needs that stand behind them.

  • Dare to honestly express not only easy feelings that serve a role, but deep emotions.

  • I can help you form key habits for this type that are like antidotes, free you from unhealthy habits. But first it’s better to start from the typing session. 

Subtypes

Self-preservation Three

Self-Preservation Three is the least focused on attracting attention of the others as his priority is to achieve goals related to their sense of safety. These Threes are hard workers, who try to secure their well-being through material worth. That is why they are more anxious than other subtypes even if they don’t show it, or are not aware of it. They are more autonomous and independent as they have the desire to be equated to their own successful image worth admiration unconsciously created in early childhood. And success for them is more about material assets than image. That’s why these Threes sometimes fail to type themselves correctly confusing themselves with Ones. Yet desire to be admired differentiates them from Ones.

Social Three

Social Threes like to be on stage more than the other Threes because they crave recognition for performance otherwise they feel unlovable. Anonymity makes them anxious. Public visibility is important, that’s why they intuitively sense the values of the groups they are in and their ability to shine in them.

Sexual Three

Sexual Three seeks attention through attracting a romantic partner and promoting and supporting the important people in their lives rather than just manifesting their own achievements. They try to create the most appealing image either in intimate relationships or in partnership. They become a role model possessing exactly those attributes that a partner finds attractive, unconsciously deceiving themselves and the partner who they really are. Sometimes they are confused with Twos, but Threes, unlike caring Twos prefer to invest in their own image.

 
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